“Why does everyone hate me?”
Do you feel like everyone hates you?
The people around you are not so happy to see you and barely interacted with you.
You have the impression that this feeling is following you everywhere you go: at work, school, the gym, home.
Because this is happening almost all the time, you are wondering what is going on and who is to blame for this.
The answer to this question may be hard to accept, but it hides right under your nose. In fact, you’re standing on it. It’s you.
No way, no no. It’s not me, it’s them. What’s going on?
It’s not the easiest answer to digest, I understand, but it can hold the solution to everything that’s been happening to you.
Why does everyone hate me?
This is the question you are trying to answer.
It may be related to how you are behaving towards people who surround you. Your actions may make others feel like you are dragging them down.
You may not be doing it on purpose, but certain actions may determine people to feel like they are not appreciated, respected or not worthy because of different things.
In order for you to understand this better, let me explain in more detail how people around you may feel they are being dragged down.
You see everything negatively
You know the old saying about the half full and half empty glass of water. It mostly describes your view on your life and everything that happens around you.
You hardly see the full half. In fact, it’s even filled with dirt and you make sure everyone around you knows this.
Your friends don’t want to hear all about what’s wrong in the city or the world every time they see you. They know about those bad events and discuss them, but not all the time.
When you meet up, they expect laughter and a good time, not a wave of negative news and thoughts.
You have low self-esteem
Do you know those extremely confident people who feel they can overcome any challenge in life?
If you are not very confident in yourself or doubt yourself when you face a new situation, it can be hard to be around people who are on the other side of the field.
Unconsciously, you may be trying to bring them to your level. This makes them feel they are regressing and everything they’ve achieved is just being taken away from them.
If you give them this feeling most of the time, you can become an unwanted, even hated, presence.
You may be suffering from depression
This is a diagnosis only a doctor can put, but I can give you a few hints about the symptoms of depression:
- Feelings of sadness, emptiness, hopelessness, worthlessness
- Blaming yourself for past and current mistakes
- Feelings of irritation and frustration over small things
- Sleep problems (insomnia or sleeping too much)
- Concentration and decision-making problems
- Loss of appetite or the desire to eat too much
- Loss of interest in daily activities
People who suffer from depression can find it harder to deal with feelings of hatred. They can ‘throw’ them on themselves or on their close ones.
Think of your actions and how they affect your friends and family. There is the answer that you need.
Remember the glass also has a full half and all you have to do is choose to see it.
From self-help books, courses, to single or group therapies, they can show you a new perspective on things.
A change in your life can fill you with positive energy and make you the person whom everyone wants to be around.